Author - David Gottlieb

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I am a father of three children, have a  Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Northwestern, and I am a therapist and author.   I evaluate and do therapy with children, teens, and parents in Chicago.  I have also written several books on these topics: anger overload, defiance, and ADHD.  I have a blog:, where I respond to parents' questions about handling anger and defiance.   My office phone # is 708-799-8796.

Is Your Child Shy?

Is your child shy and not have any friends to play with?

Parents sometimes worry that their shy child will have trouble making friends in school or will feel isolated and unhappy in school. Studies of shy children indicate that there are genetic and environmental causes of shyness, and that gradual exposure to social situations can help children become less shy. How can you help your child develop friendships without overwhelming him?

Can the teacher help with the initial conta...

Posted on October 23, 2013 at 6:00 AM by David Gottlieb

What to do when your child has a tantrum in public

A nightmare scenario for many of us parents is when our child loses it at the store, in a restaurant, at the park. Your child starts screaming or worse yet, starts throwing things, and you worry that strangers are thinking what a terrible parent you must be! What do you do now?

First, remember that most parents have experienced something like this, and unless you become overly aggressive with your child, most parents will not be angry with you but empathize with you. For tantrums ...

Posted on January 22, 2013 at 6:00 AM by David Gottlieb

What to tell your children about divorce

You and your spouse are separating and planning to get divorced.  How do you explain it to your children? 

Ideally both parents would talk with the children together.  

Tell your childten you both love them and you will both continue to see them, but that you have decided to live apart. 

If you think they might be worried that it is their fault (especially if you were arguing recently about them), reassure them that this is a decision you and your spouse made, and ...

Posted on December 20, 2012 at 6:00 AM by David Gottlieb

When Your Child Resists Toilet Training

I sometimes work with families where the child is three, four or five years old and does not want to use the toilet, especially for bowel movements.  

What can parents do?  First, try to take the pressure off and make sitting on the toilet fun.  Have your child sit (when you think he might need to go) and read him, or her, a story.  It can be about a child learning to use the toilet, or any fun story would do.  After a week, ask your child (while he is sitting on the toilet) to tr...

Posted on November 07, 2012 at 8:23 AM by David Gottlieb